29 January 2009

the bear bag & being yourself

At steph's request, here is a photo of the bag bernie got me :3 looks bigger in the photo than it actually is.

I was thinking again, as I do a lot in my spare time, and I came to the subject of personalities. Common advice given to anyone trying to socialise is that people usually like people with a good personality, right? Eg, if you're a bitch, grouchy, annoying then not many people will want to talk to you or get to know you.

However, also, we are told to "be yourself" and people will like us for who we are.

Does anyone see what I'm getting at now? What if 'yourself' is a bad personality? You can't expect people to like you if you're being yourself and you are naturally an annoying, unlikeable person. Although admittedly if you are an annoying unlikable person you usually wouldn't think of trying to portray yourself as something else because most of the time you don't realise, but that's not the point.

We as humans rarely follow our own advice of "be yourself" though. There are many instances where it would not be in your best interest to be yourself. For instance during an interview for a job, or a university application. If one were to be "be themselves", it would go a little like "Yes, I want a job here, don't ask me any more questions please and just hire me, thanks I'll get to work on monday."
or
"I'm interested in this university because then I can get a degree and don't end up as a bum on the street, and (possibly) because my parents will disown me if I don't. I have no interest in your 80 year history or contributing to your school, just accept me!"

It's not only a 'good personality' that attracts others though... outgoing people are just easier to talk to compared to antisocial, shy ones. so telling a shy person to "be themselves" isn't really going to work if they want to meet new people. sometimes you have to help them break out of their shell and get over their fear of people (not in every case, don't sue me).

Basically the advice to "be yourself" is 50% bs, since nobody follows it to its full extent anyway. I can understand if it's advice not to pretend to be someone else to gain favours, eg. pretending to be rich and successful to get a girlfriend/boyfriend because they will find out and then you're screwed, but apart from that it has next to no merit >> sometimes it's necessary to act a little different, break out of your comfort zone, to change and make yourself a better person. Experiment~

But then again one could argue that if you are willing to experiment and do that in the first place it is in your personality and thus you are being yourself by trying to change yourself. (did that even make sense)

but then that also means that the people pretending to be rich and successful etc are also being themselves because it's part of their personality to be willing to trick others or pretend to be someone they're not... kind of like they have the potential to do those kind of things, it's part of their personality. for example if a girl pretends to be rich, popular to get the guy she wants, but he finds out that she's been lying to him this whole time, he's unlikely to go back to her even if she returns to her 'normal' state ie. being modest because he knows what she's capable of, knows that she could lie to him anytime she wants. Although, someone could argue that people can change... but I think that no matter how much you change, your past is still a part of you and who you are, and definitely who you were. Eventually he could trust her, but nothing will change what she did in the past and the fact that she was capable of doing it.

actually you could just say the whole "be yourself" advice is redundant because no matter what you do you're still do an extent "being yourself" right?

...I'm sure noone is going to understand wtf I just wrote

I'm even more confused now than I was before... I guess what I can say to everyone is really just be what you want to be, noone else can do anything if you pretend to be someone else or not, and if you do it's noone else's fault if you get screwed over either. =P take responsibility for yourself and your actions, cuz noone else is gonna do it for you.

have a nice day~

28 January 2009

6 days left . . .

Bernie's come back. she got me a really cute bag with blue teddies design :3 it's so cuteeee~~

is everyone ready for school? found out which form class you're in? I still think it's majority alphabetical or unsorted atm apart from 11TH. and btw school, your library system is FAIL. I know now that I can renew my books even if someone's reserved it... hack and unreserve lol >> well, if I can figure out who's reserved it anyway.

I'm going to get stationery tomorrow afternoon. I'm so ready/not ready for school at the same time. it feels like the end of the holidays...
but I would rather spend forever relaxing like this (:

I started ji's sketch and 2/4 draft outlines are done, from this morning. ><>< bus drivers... when do we get new ids...

I can't help thinking I've forgotten to do something though...

and LOL. I just looked around my room, and theres my school bag. Guess what. I still haven't unpacked all my stuff from last year hahaha. I'm so organised 8D Going to take aic test in week 2 or 3 of school, when my english skills have been revived...

from the above entry you can tell that my life at the moment is rather cruisy and calm... just kind of waiting for school starts.

UGH. WHAT A BORING ENTRY.

21 January 2009

woaw, haven't updated in a long time

Yes, there is a transformer sign on the front of this car.

...I haven't updated in a while... although nothing much's happened. Met new people, got to know old people better, all in all a successful summer.

Although summer is officially not over yet, I have nothing better to do but to summarise the 16th summer of my life.

Well, I learnt a lot about myself. And I realised a lot of things that I already knew, but just didn't know I knew... Made a lot of progress on decision making and becoming a better person (well, 'better' in my opinion anyway). And I got more confident in myself ^^ in my personality and appearance.

I haven't lost 7kgs since the beginning of the holidays like I said I would ): but I lost 5. Still good >< style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtabYrbRJWs-ws4TZhXFulsa1uccBj5UVGODhgbTGLeudh-D90NNEp3CxadGCU1axEbyzemeXZZLKlMUpU34qoFqDRbo23W0LpfMa3SLYhEn4s-3kqntp0bdbHvlS-PX6Tu8jcS5UDwSU4/s320/DSC00473.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5293667089383682322" border="0">
hahaha. and that's not all @__@ I have more where those came frommm -no life-

I played heaps of badminton these last few days. (william reminded me, so I wrote it here.) in fact I can't feel it when I'm still. but once I move, or try to get up after sitting for a long time, or try to sit down after standing/walking for a long time.... ohhh the pain ><

I fell behind a whole month on kumon. ...but you didn't hear that from me. <<; >>;


I didn't do any work from gamma, like I was supposed to. So I'm going to fail y12 maths ><

I'm sick of guys. I never thought I'd say this but... gahhhhhh there are too many. I'm just weak minded. and easily overcome by their likability. and looks... (including that cute badminton coach and the hot guy working at the pharmacy today, both of whom I would rate a 9 on william's 1-10 scale of hotness :D) but it's ok william, you know I love you <3 since you're too girly to be considered as a real guy anyway.

I didn't really get to know any new people apart from jiaqi, but I did remeet people I had contact with eg, william, jayden, clark, ming, tian and jamie

I went on a tramp (well, it does count as part of my summer =/)... actually, wow, it does seem like a while ago. I still remember our feeling as we got out of the bush on the 2nd day... "YESSSS MY SUMMER HOLIDAY IS BEGINNING NOWWWWW!!!!!!"

I watched my friends scull drinks in the middle of the road == (idiots)

I watched WALL-E~~~ its so cute <333 and other movies~ I played FF7 for 2 days and never touched it again, I started portal and still haven't finished it ...

I rewatched Yugioh Abridged and loled at jokes I didn't get before and do now (yay, growth in internet geekdom :D)

I found the FM radio setting on my phone and started listening to the edge again. and yes, I still suck at lyrics. (can only pick out the main ones...) also had a lot of fun with my auntie, uncle and cousin when they came over ^^ (this is related to the above point because it was my auntie who told me I had a FM radio setting o_o).

When I saw my uncle, it was my immediate reaction to call him 肥叔叔 (fat uncle). OTL lol, it was my nickname for him when I was younger. Apparently, I was the one who made it up @__@ man, what a sad child I was.

I was sad because most of my friends were overseas and away ))):

I made fluke pro shots in pool. and even more noob to the point of pro shots in pool (flying white ball while breaking anyone? @_@)

I STARTED TAKING CHARGE. yeah that's right. If i want something, I now go and get it, instead of being passive and waiting for it to come to me. this has backfired on me a lot == but I'm working on it~

aaaanddd this post is getting long =/ I will probably post more when the real end of summer comes. for now, wish me luck tomorrow for badminton on my sore arm & probably SOMEONE'S constant poking ): yeah, happy wednesday everyone. hope you had a good one.

12 January 2009

my parents are fobs

I loled so hard today.

http://mymomisafob.com
http://mydadisafob.com

Mom: Can you figure out how to use this toilet spray?
Me: (Looking at a purple bottle of Calvin Klein perfume) This is perfume…
Mom: It says it’s toilet spray, right on the box!
Me: Let me see the box.
Mom: (Hands me purple Calvin Klein box)
Me: (reads “eau de toilette”) This is NOT toilet spray. Eau de toilette is French for perfume!
Mom: I was wondering why it came in such a pretty bottle. It smells really good, do you want it?


Mom: Are you going to watch Nightlight?
Me: Um what?
Mom: Nightlight. You know, it just beat the Larry Porrey books.
[Larry Porrey = Harry Potter]
Me: …do you mean Twilight? Probably not.
Mom: Yes, Nightlight. Why not? I remember you like vampire shows, like Buddy.
Me: Mom, it’s Buffy, not Buddy.
Mom: Same things. You know what I mean.

Me: How do you get rid of mice, Dad?
Dad: Get a cat. But don’t get an lazy American fatty cat. Get a hungry Chinese cat.

[Night of prom — I'm prepared to go out with my prom date who happens to be gay]
Dad: [Date] gay?
Me: Yes… very gay.
Dad: Still… be careful. He still guy. Still might rape you.
Me: He’s gay. That means he doesn’t like girls.
Dad: Why he not like girls?
Me: He’s gay.
Dad: But why? Why he not like girls? I like girls.
Me: He likes guys the same way you like girls… it’s the same feeling.
Dad: Why he like boys?
Me: I’m leaving now!
Dad: Careful! Kick him down below if he touch you wrong!!

Mom: You OK? Mommy see on TV the hurricane come. It rain outside, Mommy worry for you.
Me: What channel are you watching?
Mom: CNN.
Me: And what state did they say the hurricane was in?
Mom: Florida.
Me: Where are we?
Mom: Texas… oh, Mommy understand now.

Dad: I got an e-mail from someone. He said, “Joseph, just wanted to touch base with you.” What does that mean, touch base with you?
Me: I think he wanted to give you an update on something, or confirm and make sure that you guys are on the same page.
Dad: Oh. So how would i use that in a sentence…”Hi John, i just want to touch with you?”
Me: What?! Don’t ever say that to him!
Dad (thinking about what he just said): …OH! NONONONO!!!

Me: OK, I’m going to Blockbuster.
Dad: Can you get me that movie, you know, that one with all the fighting… Grouchy Tiger.
Me: Uhhhh… Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon?
Dad: Yeah, that one.

Dad [to realtor]: I am interested in condoms
Me: Condos, Dad.
Dad to realtor: Do you have any condoms available in [neighborhood] for around $300K?

Me: Mom, so you know Barack Obama, he —
Mom: Huh?
Me: Obama. Barack Obama?
Mom: Oh, you mean the Pokemon?
Me: No! The guy running for president!!!

[While driving with my dad, someone cuts us off]
Dad: Fart the horn! Peter, fart it!

OHHHH GOODD LOL these are funny. And here's my own one:

"If you don't understand what I've written in chinese, you can waste money and call me when I could've just written the above in english."

lol, I understood it tho.

BUT YEAH. check it out guys. You'll have fun. (:

05 January 2009

impulsive update

"The New Zealand Yellow Pages are building a restaurant 10 meters up on a redwood tree. It is now under construction on a site north of Auckland. This tree restaurant is designed by Pacific Environments Architects. This treehouse concept gives you an expression of childhood dreams and fairy tales. It is inspired by the chrysalis/cocoon safeguarding the emerging butterfly/moth. It has a 60m tree-top walkway getting you up to the restaurant and inside there’s ample space for 18 seating people and staff and complete with a bar. The kitchen and the toilet will be located at the ground level. The acrylic sheeting fixed to the roof under the fins to get the protection for tough weather conditions."

sounds interesting O_o but really unsafe haha...

well, today my grandpa spent 30 mins giving me this big talk about how I should make use of my time while i'm young and before my brain corrodes to study so that I can have a good life (yes, the asian lecture.) and that just because I'm female I have to work 3 times as hard as any man. far out wtf is that? also told me about how hard parents work etc etc... and economic recession means that 'the family is going through a hard time'

what the hell, we own a 2 story house with computers and 2 widescreen tvs. if that's 'a hard life' I'd like to see what 70% of the world's population are living though.

also, because I'm a female, I'll have to deal with hardship with family vs work, face sexism and all that jazz. so yeah, he told me my life is gonna suck. thanks a lot.

in fact, this really scares me a lot because up til now I have never had any real problems. Life's actually been really cruisy compared to a lot of things I know. I'm lucky, I wasn't born in the 3rd world, I have food to eat every day, a bed to sleep in each night, my family is together, we have a house... I am grateful. but because of this, I am scared of the future. I have so much to lose. I have never experienced real pain or pressure, no hardships. Sometimes I dislike my parents for sheltering me so much. don't start with that "but you're winnie, you won't have any problems" bs. I am still human. I'm not just kidding around here, I know it's going to be hard. I just don't know how hard, and how I'm going to be affected.

"If you don't study now, how will you get scholarship into one of those big universities? harvard... princeton..."

What if I'm not interested? I'm 15, I don't know what I want. And I'm certainly not going to go to one just because of someone else. It's my life, I'll steer it in whatever direction I want. And if I can't live forever, I'll still want to be living for myself, not conforming to society or anyone else's expectations and wants. They pretty much have it imprinted in my mind that I'm definitely going to a big university, have a job that earns a lot of money, have children, live a normal life.

But come on, the chances of that happening? Life rarely goes in the direction you plan. Sounds simple now, but simple plans are the ones that are less likely to happen...

my train of thought was interrupted just now as I was wondering when school was restarting so I asked steph. hahaahaha weak willpower, can't even remember what else I was going to rant about.

on the other hand, I managed to do 3 days worth of kumon today. not bad right? unofficially finished K now, just have to do 181-200 again once and go one more time from 1-200 K review.

lets finish off with a story:

A student comes to a young professor's office hours. She
glances down the hall, closes his door, kneels pleadingly.
"I would do *anything* to pass this exam." She leans closer
to him, flips back her hair, gazes meaningfully into his eyes.
"I mean..." she whispers, "...I would do...*anything*."
He returns her gaze. "Anything?"
"*Anything*."
His voice softens. "*Anything*??"
"*Anything*."


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His voice turns to a whisper. "Would you...*study*?"

----Supposedly a 'true story' from Dartmouth

hehe, witty professor. (: anyway cya guys I'll blog again later when I actually have something to say.

02 January 2009

happy new year

ok I'll admit I'm late. by a lot.

I can't seem to find my list of new years resolutions from 2008. maybe I actually never made any. what a waste of a year |:

OK. 2009 NYRs:
1) stop slacking when it comes to your education
2) don't get distracted by stupid things
3) try new things
4) get better at old things
5) take risks
6) make new friends
7) get to know old acquaintances
8) get hardout. im serious |: no more playing around, tiem to get serial about life.

UR RESOLUTIONS ARE TOO VAGUE you say. lolll I don't like being specific about this stuff tho, cuz then I can do it and be like "I've done it, no more improvement required."

so yeah. that's done. -check~-

........I actually had something really important/stupid to rant about but I have forgotten about what it is. maybe next time. (: